A Day In Her Life

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I have many labels. I am a mother and a wife. I’m a business advisor by day and romance writer by night and on weekends. Filling in the cracks would be my occasional travel agent transaction, but admittedly, those are mainly trips booked for myself. I am a daughter to aging parents and worried about how I can squeeze more time with them into my life. I am a volunteer and a taxi service. I am learning to be a hockey mom and I guess I’m a musician too. I have an auto-immune disorder and have something called HELLP syndrome, which has gifted me with exhaustion and permanent high blood pressure.

We all have multiple hats to wear and that’s why when people ask me how I fit it all in, I usually respond with you can be all those things too and in fact, I would hazard a guess, that most of us do way more than what we think we do already. I guess when I get asked how do I it all? How did I find the time to write and run my publishing business, on top of my full time job, husband and two kids? I would like to say, I just seem to fit it all in, but when Kelly asked me to sit and write about how I fit it all in, I began to see, I really am fairly OCD’ish in my day to day life. I find it greatly insulting to my right brain lifestyle, but after I finished writing the schedule you see below, and thought about how snappy I get when I am not in my office writing by 9:00 pm, it dawned on me I do have my own formula.

I could possibly be the most boring human in existence, so put this formula on repeat during the week, and substitute work with sports on the weekend and you have a snapshot of how I “get it all in”. So, here goes:

5-5:30am – wake up and shower – if I don’t shower right away, the morning disappears and I will be at work grossing out my co-workers with my stink.

5:30 – 6:00am – reading time – I need this time for myself to just indulge in my favourite pastime, reading.

6:00 – 6:15am – make school lunches

6:15 – 6:45am – talk to my now awake husband about our days and what our plans are, post business social media posts on FB, Twitter and Pinterest, follow up on emails, read more if there is time.

6:45 – 7:00am – hair and makeup

7:00 – 7:30am – repeatedly attempt to wake up my two children. Over, and over, and over again.

7:30 – 8:00am – finish getting kids ready, myself ready, occasionally husband ready to leave.

8:00 – 8:18 am – chase down school bus we are inevitably late for

8:18 – 8:30 am – drive like a maniac to get to work on time. I work full time for the Province of Ontario as a Small Business Advisor, teaching entrepreneurs to start and expand their business.

4:30 – race home and start dinner

5:00-6:00pm – eat dinner and clean up various things around the house

6:00 – 8:30 pm – variations of writing, booking travel taking kids to their sports of which we have, hockey, soccer, guitar, gymnastics, band and art class between the two girls, which means, Wednesday nights are sacred around our house – absolutely nothing to do!

8:30 – 9:00 pm – get littlest child to bed and oldest at least in her room reading.

9:00 – whenever – writing time. I try to write at least 1,000 words per day, often more on the weekends or if I am wide awake and able to form coherent sentences.

11:00pm – fall into bed. Spend time with husband. You can interpret that any way you want to.

1:00am – 2:30am – anywhere in this time frame, go hang out with 7yr old who still doesn’t sleep through the night. Like clockwork, she wakes up and either has to pee, or has peed, so I can often insert a load of laundry done around this time too.

So, to summarize, I guess I do have a formula. In my writing world, I need to keep up with writers doing the same thing full-time so I need three books released each year. I am nearly done book two and outlining book three, so that’s right on track.

As my kids get older, I find our dynamic is shifting. My 11yr old hasn’t much, if any interest in hanging with us and my 7yr old is a social butterfly, so she too, heads out the door to play as much as possible. Slowly my husband and I are figuring out how to become a family with these new dynamics. I don’t watch T.V., but my husband loves T.V., so if we are going to spend any time together, I gave him a list of shows I would watch and Netflix has become our new date night preference. I can certainly get better at blocking time for my husband, but sometimes it’s too exhausting to figure out how to fit him in. We take those moments together that we can and understand that our kids won’t be this little for much longer and we can just put up with it until our time frees up.

The next time someone asks me how do I fit it all in, I think after giving it some serious thought thanks to Kelly and her Formula for Life urging me to write about it, I am going to revise my standard answer. I fit it all in because each piece fits in and relies on each other piece. Take one away, and the pieces fall apart. But what I really need to remember, is add another piece on at this point, and the pressure may crush the current pieces. Something has to leave in order to add a new piece in. Right now, I can’t imagine letting any of these things go, so for now, this life, is my best life.

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